Enlightened Aging — Reminiscing About the Past

The Power of reminiscing about the past.

As we age, memories of long past events become more important, especially with each passing decade of late midlife and old age.

Studies show that when centenarians are asked to reminisce on past events—especially, to cite their enjoyable or most meaningful events—the trove of events they recall involving their first 20 years of life vastly exceeds the previous 20 years. It’s as if our minds lay down vast amounts of earlier-in-life events that get embedded deeper and stronger into our brains’ circuitry.

It is clear to anyone who speaks frequently with older persons that many delight in the telling—and retelling—of these experiences and relationships of their past lives. Since the time of Aristotle’s Rhetoric, wise people have realized that reminiscing is not harmful, but helpful, and that as we age, people think a lot less about their future and more about their past. This is not unhealthy but simply a feature of aging. People shouldn’t be denied this pleasure.

This can be challenging for many younger persons, and even spouses of older persons who themselves are old, who may find it tiresome to hear the same stories repeatedly. Think of the challenges faced by busy attendants in long-term care or other facilities where older persons live. But it is important to acknowledge that with time, our memory develops into what one eminent memory specialist, the psychologist Douwe Draaisma, calls a “nostalgia factory,” which may bring great pleasure to our lives, especially the older we become.

I believe in our everyday life as we have conversations with older persons, including persons with mild to moderate dementia, engaging in reminiscing is pleasurable and worthwhile. People reminiscing brighten up with a listener who appreciates their memories and is interested in their stories. And in turn, it’s meaningful for families to learn as much as possible from their parents and aging relatives about their family’s past, especially in a time when we are so mobile throughout the life course.

As a dementia researcher I find this a source of immense pleasure. My wife will often hear me say after a home visit or (nowadays) telephone visit, “I just heard the most amazing story about this (guy, older lady) … who grew up … or moved with his family to escape persecution or find a better life. …” These reminiscences are often the high point of my day.

The bottom line: Many people in the late stages of Alzheimer’s disease who might otherwise be totally confused can have a day, or many hours in a day, when they suddenly and out of nowhere recall with great detail important times and delight in sharing them with a child, close relative, friend, or caregiver. In interviews for my research, I hear family members report that it was as if their father or mother was back to normal and I’m asked why they can’t be like this all the time. Sadly, that’s not possible. But there is something indelible, presumably in memory centers involving the hippocampus, that stays with us throughout most, if not all, of our lives. We should strive to treasure the miraculous ability of the brain to hold onto the past as well as it does.

Dr. Eric B. Larson is a senior scientist at Kaiser Permanente Washington and author of Enlightened Aging: Building Resilience for a Long, Active Life (Rowman & Littlefield, 2017). A version of this story originally appeared on Beingpatient.com.  You can read more articles by Dr. Eric B. Larson here.

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